a strong impulse or inclination to follow a particular activity or career or
a function or station in life to which one is called by God:
I think of marriage as a vocation. It is something that should be entered into with an attitude of commitment. I believe that we are driven to marriage by God and by our need to fulfill the roles first given to Adam and Eve. This doesn’t mean that I expect everyone to be married, neither do I expect everyone to want to get married. That being said, I do believe that most people are meant to be married. American society places emphasis on “achievement”…college degrees, climbing the corporate ladder, entrepreneurship, financial freedom, etc. Young women are encouraged to explore and see what they con do on their own.
I don’t believe that this thinking is inherently flawed. It is important that each of us, male or female, learn who we are and what we are capable of. I know women who have chosen to continue their careers or their education after marriage. I appreciate and applaud their achievements. But, I am disturbed by the way women who have decided to jump the broom instead of breaking the glass ceiling are viewed. Marriage is a calling from God to serve our husbands, families, and each other. Before I was married I had many opportunities to do things that weren’t directing me toward the path I ended up on. Yet, I don’t regret getting off the corporate ladder to focus on my family. Over the years I’ve heard so many negative comments about women who choose to stay home (including those directed at me) and each time it grieves me.
As I’m writing, I’m confident there is someone reading this who needs to be encouraged. If God has called you to the vocation of full-time wife and/or mother I applaud you. Embrace your life and examine your perception. Instead of corporate meetings it may be the PTA. Company retreats may become a picnic at the park. Frequent business trips may be replaced by trips to the grocery story. Whatever your situation, know that God has called you to do a great work. He’s driven your heart in the direction that He would have you to go. Though it may be hard at times to find validation in the messages you receive from society please know that God is proud of you. You are doing a great thing!
I know a lot of women whose husband’s beliefs and commitment to living according to God’s Word differ from theirs. I once was one of them. Along the way, I often struggled with the things that I promised God but couldn’t deliver. I was grieved about the amount of time I wanted to spend at church, in prayer, in ministry, etc. Things usually didn’t work out the way I wanted them to because my husband was against it. I felt so guilty like I’d lied to God. I felt unworthy, like my works were what God really needed. Then I found this scripture:
3 If a woman also vow a vow unto the Lord, and bind herself by a bond, being in her father’s house in her youth; 4 And her father hear her vow, and her bond wherewith she hath bound her soul, and her father shall hold his peace at her; then all her vows shall stand, and every bond wherewith she hath bound her soul shall stand. 5 But if her father disallow her in the day that he heareth; not any of her vows, or of her bonds wherewith she hath bound her soul, shall stand: and the Lord shall forgive her, because her father disallowed her. 6 And if she had at all an husband, when she vowed, or uttered ought out of her lips, wherewith she bound her soul; 7 And her husband heard it, and held his peace at her in the day that he heard it: then her vows shall stand, and her bonds wherewith she bound her soul shall stand. 8 But if her husband disallowed her on the day that he heard it; then he shall make her vow which she vowed, and that which she uttered with her lips, wherewith she bound her soul, of none effect: and the Lord shall forgive her. – Nu 30:3-8 (KJV)
I don’t think there are any married women who haven’t heard that we are to submit to our husbands. There are very few who have always managed to get the instruction right without some challenges. But for me, this scripture allowed me to release the guilt, frustration, and shame that came when I couldn’t do everything I planned. God desires us to submit and honor the requests of our husband. This means that we will have to sacrifice some things. It also means that we must keep in our minds that we have the ability to sanctify them with our actions and attitudes. Know that in every circumstance God is most concerned with the condition of your heart. If your desire is to serve Him then He will be well pleased. Don’t assume responsibility for circumstances that you cannot control. Honor your vows to your Husband and let God take care of the rest.
Houses and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the Lord. – Pro 19:14
Using the definition for prudence from Strong’s dictionary a prudent wife is:
Circumspect and intelligent. She is able to guide wittingly, wisely understand, and has insight. She is prosperous, can cause to prosper, able to teach and to ponder.
Wow! What an amazing woman. All of that wrapped in one package and presented to a man as a gift from God. Wives, in this world that tries to diminish your value, be proud. You are a gift to your husband. God made you just to be a prudent wife..HIS prudent wife. Measure your success against the Word of God not your neighbor or your friend. Be what you were created to be. God will honor you for your efforts!