Vocational School

Webster’s Dictionary defines vocation as:

a strong impulse or inclination to follow a particular activity or career or
a function or station in life to which one is called by God:

I think of marriage as a vocation. It is something that should be entered into with an attitude of commitment. I believe that we are driven to marriage by God and by our need to fulfill the roles first given to Adam and Eve. This doesn’t mean that I expect everyone to be married, neither do I expect everyone to want to get married. That being said, I do believe that most people are meant to be married. American society places emphasis on “achievement”…college degrees, climbing the corporate ladder, entrepreneurship, financial freedom, etc. Young women are encouraged to explore and see what they con do on their own.

I don’t believe that this thinking is inherently flawed. It is important that each of us, male or female, learn who we are and what we are capable of. I know women who have chosen to continue their careers or their education after marriage. I appreciate and applaud their achievements. But, I am disturbed by the way women who have decided to jump the broom instead of breaking the glass ceiling are viewed. Marriage is a calling from God to serve our husbands, families, and each other. Before I was married I had many opportunities to do things that weren’t directing me toward the path I ended up on. Yet, I don’t regret getting off the corporate ladder to focus on my family. Over the years I’ve heard so many negative comments about women who choose to stay home (including those directed at me) and each time it grieves me.

As I’m writing, I’m confident there is someone reading this who needs to be encouraged. If God has called you to the vocation of full-time wife and/or mother I applaud you. Embrace your life and examine your perception. Instead of corporate meetings it may be the PTA. Company retreats may become a picnic at the park. Frequent business trips may be replaced by trips to the grocery story. Whatever your situation, know that God has called you to do a great work. He’s driven your heart in the direction that He would have you to go. Though it may be hard at times to find validation in the messages you receive from society please know that God is proud of you. You are doing a great thing!

Be encouraged,

T.

Expecting

For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord , thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end. (Jeremiah 29:11 KJV)

In tough times I remember reciting Jer 29:11 through my tears. My marriage was a shambles, our finances were turned upside down, life seemed rife with struggle. In this scripture I found comfort and strength because it reminded me that the season I was in wasn’t going to last forever.

My focus was so intense on verse 11 that it took me some time to get to the next two verses.

Then shall ye call upon me, and ye shall go and pray unto me, and I will hearken unto you. And ye shall seek me, and find me, when ye shall search for me with all your heart. (Jeremiah 29:12-13 KJV)

God wants to bless us, wants to hear from us and wants to be there for us. This can only happen if our heart is turned toward him. We have to look for God wherever and whatever we are in. Even when things feel bad if we turn our WHOLE heart to God we will find Him. I’m so very thankful that we serve a God who hears us.

Keep expecting,

T.

Don’t give up

Not every day in marriage will be easy. I encourage those who have decided to give up take take another look. Love covers a multitude of sins. Abuse is not acceptable….I’m very clear on that! But, bruised egos, hurt feelings, and miscommunication can be remedied.

We must be confidant that God desires the best for us. Sometimes we look to our spouse to heal the wounds that only God can. Other times we treat God like we treat people – we are suspicious, cautious and afraid. Instead, we should be open, honest and vulnerable in His presence. As a wife, the greatest lesson I’ve ever learned is to take my pain to God in prayer.

Take another look,

Tanisha

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Oops! Ministering through mistakes

If anyone has caused grief, he has not so much grieved me as he has grieved all of you to some extent—not to put it too severely. The punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient. Now instead, you ought to forgive and comfort him, so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow. I urge you, therefore, to reaffirm your love for him. (2 Corinthians 2:5-8 NIV)

Sometimes husbands make mistakes. As a wife, do you find yourself more of a critic than an encourager? No husband wants to disappoint his wife. Let the consequences of your husband’s mistakes be enough. Though at times the results may be aggravating or seemingly overwhelming be considerate of your role as a wife. Do as the scripture says “forgive and comfort”. Let your husband know that you love him despite his imperfection. Remember that God loves us despite ours. To do otherwise may be opening the door for Satan to overcome him.

Lord,

Help us to overcome our own disappointment. Remind us that everything that happens in our lives is something that you have allowed. Give us wisdom to know how to show our love and support to our husbands even during difficult times. Thank you for loving us through our imperfections. In Jesus name we pray.

Amen