Manifesto 2013 from (in)courage

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Don’t Worry, Be Happy

I know a lot of women whose husband’s beliefs and commitment to living according to God’s Word differ from theirs.  I once was one of them.  Along the way, I often struggled with the things that I promised God but couldn’t deliver.  I was grieved about the amount of time I wanted to spend at church, in prayer, in ministry, etc.  Things usually didn’t work out the way I wanted them to because my husband was against it.  I felt so guilty like I’d lied to God.  I felt unworthy, like my works were what God really needed.  Then I found this scripture:

If a woman also vow a vow unto the Lord, and bind herself by a bond, being in her father’s house in her youth;  And her father hear her vow, and her bond wherewith she hath bound her soul, and her father shall hold his peace at her; then all her vows shall stand, and every bond wherewith she hath bound her soul shall stand.  But if her father disallow her in the day that he heareth; not any of her vows, or of her bonds wherewith she hath bound her soul, shall stand: and the Lord shall forgive her, because her father disallowed her.  And if she had at all an husband, when she vowed, or uttered ought out of her lips, wherewith she bound her soul;  And her husband heard it, and held his peace at her in the day that he heard it: then her vows shall stand, and her bonds wherewith she bound her soul shall stand.  But if her husband disallowed her on the day that he heard it; then he shall make her vow which she vowed, and that which she uttered with her lips, wherewith she bound her soul, of none effect: and the Lord shall forgive her. – Nu 30:3-8 (KJV)

I don’t think there are any married women who haven’t heard that we are to submit to our husbands.  There are very few who have always managed to get the instruction right without some challenges.  But for me, this scripture allowed me to release the guilt, frustration, and shame that came when I couldn’t do everything I planned.  God desires us to submit and honor the requests of our husband.  This means that we will have to sacrifice some things.  It also means that we must keep in our minds that we have the ability to sanctify them with our actions and attitudes.  Know that in every circumstance God is most concerned with the condition of your heart.  If your desire is to serve Him then He will be well pleased.  Don’t assume responsibility for circumstances that you cannot control.  Honor your vows to your Husband and let God take care of the rest.

Be encouraged,


Marriage Today – Excellent Resources

I’m loving the resources and messages being shared through this ministry! Remember to keep learning even if your spouse doesn’t seem to be in the same class… Check-up time! Watch this video. These areas determine the satisfaction of your relationship. — marriagetoday (@marriagetoday) Be encouraged, T.


Things happen

One thing I’ve learned about life is that things happen. They aren’t always pleasant things and neither are they always terrible things. Sometimes they are just inconvenient or annoying things. But nonetheless, they happen to all of us. In the end, life goes on. That attitude, coupled with King Solomon’s observation in Ecclesiastes 9, can get us a long way.

11 I returned, and saw under the sun, that the race is not to the swift, nor the battle to the strong, neither yet bread to the wise, nor yet riches to men of understanding, nor yet favour to men of skill; but time and chance happeneth to them all. – Ecc 9:11 (KJV)

A perfect case study for this happened in my house yesterday evening. My husband and oldest daughter took our puppy for a walk before dinner. In the midst of my dinner prep my cell phone rings and it’s my husband on the other end. It seems that the pup has stepped in a patch of sticky briars (small, poky, miserable, thorns). He said they’d gotten most of them out but there had to be one they didn’t because the puppy couldn’t walk without yelping. My first thought was…ARE YOU KIDDING ME!!!!! A couple minutes later in they come. My oldest is hysterical over her puppy and the little ones quickly followed. Great! My spinach is on the stove about to burn, tweezers are out, we are trying to find a blanket to swaddle the dog, and the children are zipping around in every direction.

What did I do? Grab the dog, swaddle him and give him a bear hug. Direct my middle daughter to tend the food on the stove. Send the little kids off to the other room. Get the oldest to hold his hind paws while shoving the tweezers in my husband’s hand. It took a few minutes and there was a lot of eerily newborn like crying from the dog BUT we got it out. Crisis subdued and dinner was done…whew!

Ladies, if you are a wife and mother remember you are the captain of the emotional ship in your house. Crazy things, hurtful things, unexpected things, frustrating things all happen. Sometimes, they all happen at once (I know you know). But don’t panic. Handle it as you were created to do. If you have trouble with it then use this as a mantra “Hysteria is the enemy!” Sing it, write it on the bathroom mirror, record it and play it on your morning commute or school drop off run. Whatever you do, stay calm! Remember what the wise king said.

Be encouraged,


Welcome 2013

Over the past few days I’ve enjoyed reading the Happy New Year posts from friends on social media, in text messages, emails, and blog posts. They have been a reminder of how important reflection is. This is a time to exhale and realize that no matter how many difficult or painful circumstances 2012 held, we made it to a new beginning. People are so full of resolutions, fresh plans, and renewed hope at this time of year. Yet, I think about those whose thoughts are filled with their daily struggles and to whom the turn of the new year brings little excitement.

I was reading Psalm 34 last night before I went to bed and these are the verses that I’m grateful to be able to share from a renewed perspective. I remember when I was the one wondering if God was going to breathe new life and restoration into my marriage. If you woke up in the new year facing the realities of the year before, without hope, then here is a gift for you straight out of God’s word. I encourage you to take these scriptures and meditate on them. Let them push you forward when you really want to retreat.

I will bless the Lord at all times; his praise shall continually be in my mouth – Psa 34:1

O magnify the Lord with me, and let us exalt his name together. I sought the Lord, and he heard me, and delivered me from all my fears. – Psa 34:3-4

The angel of the Lord encampeth round about them that fear him, and delivereth them. O taste and see that the Lord is good: blessed is the man that trusteth in him. O fear the Lord, ye his saints: for there is no want to them that fear him. – Psa 34:7-9

The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit. – Psa 34:18

Many are the afflictions of the righteous: but the Lord delivereth him out of them all. – Psa 34:19

Dear God,

Today I pray for a renewal in the hearts and minds of my sisters who are struggling. We know that marriage was ordained by you God and that honoring our wedding vows does not always come without pain. We know that this new year is a time for renewed hope and promise despite what our circumstances try and dictate. Today, we seek your Holy Spirit to renew us. Let us know that chronological time cannot beat your perfect timing. So God, we seek your face in 2013 more than ever before. Your timing is perfect for us to receive healing, restoration and deliverance from our pain. So in 2013 we will magnify, bless, praise, seek, trust, and walk in fear of you Lord. In turn God we are confident that you will hear our cry, deliver us from fear, and dispatch angels to protect and deliver us. We love you.

In Jesus Name,


Welcome into the New Year,